If your child refuses to go potty, he may simply not be ready and the best option is to wait until your toddler masters the necessary abilities.
Engage in preparation work as suggested in our blog post discussing potty training groundwork and use the ToyLet® to create fun expectations about potty training so you both stay motivated while your toddler catches up!
Once you can rule out fear, pain during elimination or discomfort – sometimes it’s the environment that is scary to the kid and maybe she doesn’t know how to communicate this – waiting it out may be the best course of action. We know it’s hard sometimes, but don’t show frustration and stay positive at all time. Kids are very good at picking up parental stress or anxiety, and stress is a stumbling block on the road to successful potty training. Toddlers who have been using the potty can have accidents during times of transition, such as starting a new school or welcoming a new baby. These situations are temporary, and once things settle down your toddler will go back to potty training.
Dealing with frustration and feelings of hopelessness are normal with parents: raising a child or more children while handing other tasks and chores can be overwhelming, both physically and emotionally.
Potty training pressure also comes from sources external to the family, such as daycare or kindergarten, comparisons with other siblings or peers, grandparents’ standards… the list goes on… If you feel overwhelmed, make sure to withdraw from the situation to gain back control. Using harsh methods on a toddler can cause a decline or standstill in the amazingly quick growth the child is going through.
Remember that going potty is an entirely new concept for your kid and that he or she has a lifetime experience in peeing or pooping in a more familiar diaper!
Even well meant potty reminders in times of pressure can increase the stress level and slow the process. Take a potty training break but don’t just sit and wait: make it a positive experience and give yourself – and your kid – space to relax.